Relationships between the two genders (Internet relationships) in Islam

Internet relationships
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QUESTION:
I am a female college student. My problem is that I have gotten to know a young man over the internet. In the beginning the relationship was one of respect and exchanging information, until it turned into love. My mother rejects the idea of me marrying him, and she has threatened to tell my father about this relationship. I cannot do without him and he feels the same way, because he has told me that he will commit suicide if we cannot get married. 
I hope that you can advise me. I cannot be apart from him and he does not. 

ANSWER :
Praise be to Allaah. 
Note – may Allaah bless you – that our great religion firmly warns us against forming relationships between the sexes outside the framework of marriage and firmly closes the door to the calamity of introduction programs that are propagated by means of newspapers, magazines and the internet. These warnings are a means of warding off fitnah (temptation and tribulation) and preventing love affairs which usually lead people to commit acts of grave immorality and transgression of the sacred limits set by Allaah – Allaah forbid – or they lead them to marriages that end in failure and are filled with suspicion and mistrust.

First of all, you made a mistake by entering the chat room before knowing what the Islamic ruling on that is. Then you made another mistake by forming a relationship and friendship with a young man who is not related to you.

Beware of making a third mistake by marrying him because he claims to love you sincerely and you are afraid that he may commit suicide! 

Marriage that is not based on a sound Islamic foundation is doomed to end in failure and regret. A young man who has spent all this time forming a relationship with a girl through chat rooms and telephone calls is in fact a young man who has no religious commitment, modesty or manners, and he cannot be entrusted with the honour of the Muslims. His threat to commit suicide means one of two things: 

Either he is sincere in his threat, which means that he is very weak in faith, because killing oneself is a major sin – may Allaah keep us safe and sound;

Or he is lying, which means that he is a hateful opportunist and a fool, as well as a selfish individual who cares only for his own personal interests. 

If you were to marry this person, it would not take very long before suspicions arose which would lead to him losing trust in you and not having a peaceful or relaxed life with you. From his point of view, a girl whom he gets to know through talking on the phone or through chat rooms cannot be trusted not to form relationships with others. This will occupy his thoughts and make him anxious. 

Finally, you should note that this advice which we are offering to you is based on sincere concern for you. You should learn a lesson from the experience of other girls who have fallen victim to love relationships and lost their honour as a result. You should give up this young man immediately and repent to Allaah and ask His forgiveness, and praise Him for saving you from committing immoral actions even though the means that lead to them are easily available. You should also praise Him for putting obstacles in the way of this marriage, through your family’s refusal. Start a new life filled with purity and chastity, regret and prayers for forgiveness, keeping away from the things that lead to temptation and immorality. Do a lot of righteous deeds, read a great deal of Qur’aan, and attend many righteous gatherings. With time, your relationship with this person will fade, for it is based on emotions that are not based on shar’i guidelines or wise thinking. Beware lest the Shaytaan ensnare you and makes you think that you cannot forget or sever the relationship forever; these are just whispers and tricks, and devilish attempts to keep you in the hell of love and emotion, and distract you from the higher aims of sincere devotion and submission to Allaah and constant striving to please Him. We ask Allaah to give you a way out from your distress and anxiety. 

Dr Riyaadh al-Musaymeeri.
FATWA:21933
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The highest example of peace! The unequalled paragon of mercy!!!!! See the example of Religious Harmony in Islam

CONQUEST OF MACCA was a great incident that was occurred in the Islamic history. It was known as the bloodless conquest. When the conquest of Macca was complete!, there, before the prophet of mercy stood a multitude of people; dazed; uncertainty hanging over them.

Who were these people?

1. These were the people who had chased the prophet out of his homeland for the only reason that he spoke the truth.
2. These were the people who had cast the rotting entrails of camel onto his neck even as he was engaged in prayer.
3. These were the people who had stoned him out of their precincts
4. Here was Wahshi who, at Uhud, had betrayed and killed his dear uncle, Hmaza (RA), the lion of Islam.
5. Here, b4 him, stood the women who had shown the greatest animosity towards Islam, who had cut off the noses and ears of the Muslim dead and had worn them on as necklaces
6. Here was Hind who had ripped open the body of that Lion of Islam and had taken out and chewed upon his raw liver, rejoicing threat, on the battle field.
7. Here were the people who had tortured and persecuted the believers.
8. Here were the people who had savagely murdered Sumayya
9. These were the people who had so cruelly killed Yassir
10. These were the people who had tortured Bilal and Ammar.
11. These were the people who had tried, and failed, to destroy the true religion with all the means at their disposal.


There was no authority in their hands on that day. There were no swords that can be raised high in their defense. There was not the wicked whip to torture and maim. But all that does confront them from every side was the thousands of armed warriors ever ready to carry out any command of the prophet.

At a word from the prophet their heads would roll at his feet. Thousands would be ready to chew upon and spit out their liver. The intestines of camels would adorn their necks.

But all humility did the prophet ask, “what do u expect at my hands, this day’?
Came the pathetic reply, “Mercy, for you are a nobleman and the son of nobleman”.

The great exemplar of mercy, of pity, of love and sympathy, forthwith, commanded,

“GO FORTH, FOR YOU ARE ALL FREE THIS DAY.”
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HIS LOVE

Prophet (PBUH) had ignored the practice of a Jewish woman who used to spit at him daily. One day, however, as he passed by his usual route, he was surprised to see that no spit had fallen upon him. “WHERE HAS MY FRIEND GONE FOR SHE HAS NOT COME OUT TO SEE ME TODAY’? he enquired. On hearing she was ill, he visited her and gave her company at her sickbed and pryaed for her to get a fast recovery.

He never cursed those who spoke ill of him; never took revenge upon those who tortured him. But we see that he ever prayed for those stoned and chased him away...


ISLAM IS THE RELIGION OF PEACE, MERCY AND LOVE NOT OF HATRED, REVENGE AND TERRORISM...

The Autumn that appears as a Spring...Before you Fall in Love

  If you are an  average looking girl, a boy from your class or neighbour, will appreciate you a lot. The dictionaries of human relations call it 'flattery', artifical praise. If the boy is smart in talking he will pass innocent coments with a mishceivious flavour to draw your attention.  In the world of cheaters it is called 'flirting'. Millions of girls across the world , have slipped into these pits and found it difficlut to come out . They discover that those roses were thorns in disguise. 

   Why should you fall in love?  What will you get after exchanging your heart in return of  pain? 

    In seclusion, as well in crowd, you will be  living with sighs like a crazy insane. You will feel lonely even in a gathering, just thinking about him. Trodding on such dreamy  paths  , you rarely reach your dream palace. A Broken heart, a  shattered dream,   a feeling  of betrayal,  and self condemnation as an award for your folly await for you. 

    How many expectaions from him ! How many late nights ! How many long waits poking tireless messages ! It will be too late when  you realise that these walls are not of bricks but sands  and can crumble even with  a puff. 

 Then one day he will say " Pardon  me ! I will pray for you that you get a better boy than me. You see my Mom is not agreeing to our relations and I cannot disobey my mother because it is a sin " Your dream castle was made up of sand.  It will be like someone has pushed you down into a lonely valley with nobody to share your agony. One day you may discover that he is into another affair. You are replaced by another prettier girl. Now you will look into the mirror and aks your self " was I really as beautiful as he praised me earlier?"  The reply of your mirror will give you an extreme inferiority complex about your looks. 

    The pain of heart cannot be understood by others around you. No thermometers can give you the temperature nor can any cardiology test can inform the world what pain a broken heart undergoes. When the next spring arrives, it will bring nostalgia and  only warm tears, wasting your time, wasting your life in memories of your EX-DEAR. 

     You may call him ungrateful, untrustworthy and curse him for days but  weren't you ungrateful  and untrustworthy when you quitely slipped out with him without your parent's approval or knowledge, and they kept on thinking that your are extremly modest. Were you not wrong when you secretly messaged him romantic messages and remained busy chatting with him when your poor mother needed you in domestic help?  

  Dont forget that every one cannot get the  Moon but if you observe self restrain then Allah may give you soon. If you love the world for your beloved then you may loose your akhera. But if You love Sabr over sins then it is the promise of Allah that you cherish. The choice is yours.. Remember " Allah intends easiness upon you, He does not intend  to put you into difficulties..( Surah al Baqarah verse 185 )

Nisaar Nadiadwala  can be responded at nisaar_yusuf@yahoo.com

ETIQUETTE & IMPORTANCE OF HIJAB / ABAYA / JILBAAB / BURQHA / PARDA

Exposing yourself to the world is prohibited in EVERY RELIGION, no matter what faith you have. 

***IN ISLAM ***
The hijab is, first and foremost, an act of worship that women engage in, and an obligatory act undertaken to seek the pleasure of one’s Lord.
Muslim women are required in Islam to cover themselves whenever they are outside of their homes or in the presence of non-mahrem men. This provides many benefits to the woman herself as well as to the society as a whole
The word hijab is derived from the Arabic root hajaba, which means to hide from view or to conceal. Hijab is much more than a headscarf: it is an entire way of dressing, behaving and believing
It is indeed the case that many sisters are completely ignorant about the conditions of the legally valid hijab, and hence it is incumbent upon all of us to raise awareness of the legal conditions and features of a correct hijab. Knowledge is the cure for many of our mistakes. 

In non Islamic countries we witness various types of un-Islamic hijabs. Tight Jeans long leather high heeled boots and tight shirts with a head scarf are all typical representations of the kind of hijab that is now being promoted by many young and middle aged Muslim women. Today the way many Muslim women adorn the hijab defeats the whole purpose of hijab itself.
1. Proper hijab dictates that the entire body must be covered, although the face and hands may be exposed. However some cover themselves further by means of a face veil and gloves, and this is perfectly fine.Pants are unacceptable unless they are worn underneath the outer garments.
2. Colors and styles should be as plain as possible so that unnecessary attention is not drawn to the woman. In addition, the clothing should not be excessively rich and fancy in order to gain admiration nor excessively poor and ragged in order to gain sympathy. Modesty is the main goal.
3. Make-up does not matter unless it is completely covered by a face-veil & halal ingredients are used)
4. A Muslim woman who wears hijab should also strive to make her actions consistent with her dress with regards to Islamic guidelines for speech, manners and behavior.
The Conditions of hijaab: 
1) (It should not be an adornment in and of itself).“… and not to show off their adornment.” [al-Noor 24:31]. The general meaning of this phrase includes the outer garment, because if it is decorated it will attract men’s attention to her
“And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance” [al-Ahzaab 33:33

2) (It should be thick and not transparent or “see-thru”)
Transparent clothing makes a woman more tempting and beautiful. Concerning this the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “During the last days of my ummah there will be women who are clothed but naked, with something on their heads like the humps of camels. Curse them, for they are cursed.” Another hadeeth adds: “They will not enter Paradise or even smell its fragrance, although its fragrance can be detected from such and such a distance.”(Narrated by Muslim from the report of Abu Hurayrah).
3) (It should be loose, not tight so that it describes any part of the body).
The purpose of hijab is to prevent fitnah (temptation), and this can only be achieved if clothes are wide and loose. Tight clothes, even if they conceal the colour of the skin, still describe the size and shape of the body or part of it, and create a vivid image in the minds of men.So the jilbab must be wide. 

4) (It should not be perfumed)
There are many ahaadeeth which forbid women to wear perfume when they go out of their houses. 
Abu Moosa al-Ash’ari said: Muhammed (PBUH) said: “Any woman who puts on perfume then passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance, is an adulteress.”
Moosa ibn Yassaar said that a woman passed by Abu Hurayrah and her scent was overpowering. He said, “O female slave of al-Jabbaar, are you going to the mosque?” She said, “Yes,” He said, “And have you put on perfume because of that?” She said, “Yes.” He said, “Go back and wash yourself, for I heard Muhammed(PBUH) say: ‘If a woman comes out to the mosque and her fragrance is overpowering, Allaah will not accept any prayer from her until she goes home and washes herself.’”(Gusal)
The reason for this prohibition is quite clear, that women’s fragrance may cause undue provocation of desires. The scholars also included other things under this heading of things to be avoided by women who want to go to the mosque, such as beautiful clothes, jewelry that can be seen, excessive adornments and mingling with men. 

5). It should not resemble the clothing of men or non believers.
Abu Hurayrah said: “Muhammed (PBUH) cursed the man who wears women’s clothes, and the woman who wears men’s clothes.”
‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr said: I heard Muhammed (PBUH) say: ‘They are not part of us, the women who imitate men and the men who imitate women.’”
‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr said: “Muhammed (PBUH) said: ‘There are three who will not enter Paradise and Allaah will not even look at them on the Day of Resurrection: one who disobeys his parents, a woman who imitates men, and the duyooth [cuckold,(the husband of an unfaithful wife.) weak man who feels no jealousy over his womenfolk].”

6) (It should not be a garment of fame and vanity).
Ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (PBUH) said: ‘Whoever wears a garment of fame and vanity in this world, Allah will clothe him in a garment of humiliation on the Day of Resurrection, then He will cause Fire to flame up around him.’” (Hijaab al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah, p. 54-67).

Moreover any jewelry or the sound of it should not be shown/heard, as it is a distraction.(eg.finger rings , bangles, anklets, bracelets etc.) 

It is haram to wear tightly fitting clothes which explain the parts of the body, especially those parts which are sexually attractive.
`Be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy or evil desire for adultery, etc) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner.' (Surah Ahzab: This points towards rapport building and creating good relations with non mehrams by being extra soft spoken and artificial behavior.)
The heart is more pure when the sight is blocked (by hijab) and thus the prevention of fitna (evil actions is very much manifested. The hijab cuts off the ill thoughts and the greed of the sick hearts: 

Surah Al-Ahzab (33:59) states: "O Prophet [PBUH] Tell thy wives and daughters and the believing women that they should put on their outer garments; that is most convenient in order that THEY MAY BE RECOGNIZED (as Muslims) and not be molested."
THE BENEFITS OF HIJAB (COVERING) FOR WOMEN :
The HIJAB IS A SORT OF "SCREEN" BETWEEN THE CHASTE MUSLIM WOMAN AND THE EVIL THAT EXISTS IN THE WORLD. When a woman wears a hijab she is less likely to be harassed by men with lusty motives; SHE IS LESS LIKELY TO BE EXPLOITED FOR HER BEAUTY AND FEMINITY.

AN ACT OF OBEDIENCE 
And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, has indeed strayed in a plain error.' (S33:36). 
The Muslim woman does not try to impress anyone but Allah wherever she is and so she will strive to adhere by HIS orders in order to reach her goal. The hijab cuts down on competition among women. Many people in the West sacrifice financial savings and health in order to have plastic surgery , joining gyms - in a desperate attempt to meet up to an unrealistic standard of beauty. IN ISLAM, WOMEN ARE APPRECIATED FOR THEIR KNOWLEDGE, PIETY AND CONTRIBUTION TO SOCIETY. When women wear hijab one finds that the most beautiful women are not necessarily the most popular. .Muslim women should be a practical example to tell people that they will have to judge her for her intelligence, personality, and character, and not just superficial physical traits or appearance 

Aisha (RA), the wife of the prophet (pbuh), addressed some women from the tribe of Banu Tameem who came to visit her and had light clothes on them, they were improperly dressed: "If indeed you are believing women, then truly this is not the dress of the believing women, and if you are not believing women, then enjoy it." 

THE HIJAB IS HAYA' (BASHFULNESS) There are two authentic hadith which state: "Each religion has a morality and the morality of Islam is haya'" AND "Bashfulness is from belief, and belief is in Al-Jannah (paradise)". The hijab fits the natural bashfulness which is a part of the nature of women.
The main aim of hijab is to stop fitnah; females who are attractive by nature attract the gaze of males which then leads to other greater sins such as fornication and adultery. Allah commanded women neither to display their adornment nor to display any form of behavior that might attract the attention of men. 
If jilbab is worn with intention of worldly praise the reward of worldly aims is given in this life and no reward will be given after death and such women are found manipulating this Islamic dress code as their intention is not ‘Taqwa’ The jilbab is the very long coat, which covers from the shoulders to the ankles and not upto the knees as seen now a days.
The believing women of the prophets time clearly didnt dress with this 'modern hijab' which has totally been influenced by western culture. Islam can never change, whether people classify it as outdated or traditional

Anyone who disputes in the prescribed guidelines should keep it to themselves because each one will be accountable for his own actions. Here all evidence is from the Quran and sunnah. Allah says: 
“It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allaah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allaah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error” [al-Ahzaab 33:36] 
*Clothing must cover the entire body, only the hands and face may remain visible (According to some Fiqh Schools) 
*Islam protects the woman. It is for this reason that Allah gave these laws. In today's society womankind is being exploited, female sexuality is being openly used in advertising, mainly to attract the desires of men and therefore sell the product or services.
*Allah has given us guidance through the Quran and Sunnah, He also given us the logic and commonsense to apply these in our everyday life. However, Allah is not unreasonable and understands the mankind’s weakness and to this I will refer you to the hadith in Sahih Al-Bukhari.The Prophet said, "Religion (Islam) is very easy and whoever overburdens himself in his religion will not be able to continue in that way. So you should not be extremists, but try to be near perfection and receive the good tidings that you will be rewarded; and gain strength by offering the prayers in the mornings, afternoons and during the last hour of the night." [1:38-O.B.]
When men dress to be respected, they wear a business suit that covers them to throat, wrist, and ankle, and they keep their hair simple and plain. When women dress to be respected, shouldn't they also cover to throat, wrist, and ankle, and make sure that their hair is not a decoration? 
Surah an-Nur : 31 and Surah al-Ahzab :59.
And say to the faithful women to lower their gazes, and to guard their private parts, and not to display their beauty except what is apparent of it, and to extend their headcoverings (khimars) to cover their bosoms, and not to display their beauty except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons, or their husband's sons, or their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their womenfolk, or what their right hands rule (slaves), or the followers from the men who do not feel sexual desire, or the small children to whom the nakedness of women is not apparent, and not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known what they hide of their adornments. And turn in repentance to God together, O you the faithful, in order that you are successful.
What does "what is apparent of it" mean? This is one of the passages in the Quran that is explained by the sunnah . 
When muslim women are obliged to wear the Hijab without truly pondering over its superiority and lack of fear of Allah they fail to follow these guidelines. Why? Because they observe these misguided disbelievers attempting to look beautiful for all to see. Hence, the Muslim woman then compares herself to that woman which causes her to feel ashamed of her own Hijab.
Muhammed (PBUH) said , "Allah is modest and covering. He loves modesty and privacy." [Abu Daawood, An-Nasaa'i Al-Bayhaqi, Ahmad].
Therefore, we see that the Hijab is indeed a part of modesty. Muhammed (PBUH) said: "Modesty is part of Eemaan and Eemaan is in Paradise." [At-Tirmithi]. Also: "Modesty and Eemaan are companions, when one goes away the other one goes away." [Al-Haakim]
It can be quite difficult for the woman to go out wearing Hijab in a society that mocks and torments her. Indeed, she may feel strange and out of place. However, if she knows the status of those who are mocked by the disbelievers,(in Allah’s sight) then she would continue to wear her Hijab with dignity.
Do not be envious of the disbelieving women. Such lewd women will not even smell the fragrance of Paradise; so our women must avoid their path. They only have this life to enjoy, while the believing women will have Paradise. There is nothing in your Hijab to be ashamed of, as it is the garment of the righteous and pious female worshippers of Allah. 
Allah Says :The criminals used to laugh at those who believed. And whenever they passed them, used to wink at one another. And when they returned to their own people, they would return jesting. When they saw them, they said: 'These have indeed gone astray!' But they (disbelievers, sinners) had not been sent as watchers over them (the believers). But on this Day those who believe will laugh at the disbelievers. On (high) thrones, looking (at all things). Are not the disbelievers paid (fully) for what they used to do?" [Quran 83:29-36]
Covering the feet is something that is prescribed for women and is in fact obligatory for them according to many scholars.Either with her garment which is long and covers them or by wearing socks or shoes.
PROPER HIJAB IS :
1. An act of OBEDIENCE to The CREATOR
2. An act of HONOR and DIGNITY
3. An act of BELIEF and FAITH
4. An act of MODESTY
5. An act of PURITY
6. An act of BASHFULNESS
7. An act of RIGHTEOUSNESS
8. A SHIELD

The Obligatory Conditions For An Islamic Hijab

1. Covering ALL Of The Body

It is an agreed position by many respected scholars that the face and hands of the woman must be covered. Some scholars say it is permissible to uncover the face and the hands of the woman as long as there is no fitnah (infatuation) caused by this action. Two things must be taken into consideration

If she is beautiful and beautifies her face and hands with external substances, or

The society around her is corrupt where men do not lower their gaze, then it is prohibited for her to uncover her face and hands.

On the authority of the wife of the prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), Umm Salamah said:

"When the verse was revealed that they should cast their outer garments over their bodies' was revealed, the women of Ansar came out as if they had crows over their heads by wearing outer garments.

2. The hijab must not be a display

The hijab itself must not be a display. Allah ordained it so as to cover the beauty of women and not for showing off. Allah says:

"And not show of their adornment except only that which is apparent." [Noble Quran 24:31].

AND

"And stay in your houses and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance." [Noble Quran 33:33].

It is in no way logical that the hijab itself be a source of display.

3. The hijab must not be transparent

The purpose of wearing hijab must be achieved. In order for the hijab to be a cover, it must not be made of transparent material making the woman covered only by name, while in reality she is naked. The prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is quoted as saying:

"In the latest part of my Ummah (nation of Muslims) there shall be women who would be naked in spite of being dressed, they have their hair high like the humps of the Bukht camel, curse them, for they are cursed. They will not enter Al-Jannah and would not even perceive its odor, although it's fragrance can be perceived from a distance of 500 years traveling by camel"

This indicates that a woman could cause herself a grave and destructive sin if she puts on a garment that is thin and transparent and which clearly shapes her body's features.

4. Hijab must be roomy, and not tight.

The hijab is a safeguard against fitnah. If it is tight, it will be descriptive of the woman's body and this violates and defeats the whole purpose of hijab.

5. The hijab must not be perfumed

On the authority of Ad-Diya' Al-Maqdisi, the prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"Any woman who perfumes herself and passes by some people that they smell her scent, then she is a Zaniyah (adulteress)."

6. The hijab shouldn't resemble the dress of a man

Imam Ahmed, an-Nasa'i reported the prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to have said:

"Women who assume the manners of men are not from us and also those of men who assume the manners of women."

Abu Hurairah narrated that: "The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) CURSED the man who wears the dress of a woman and the woman who wears the dress of a man."

7. The hijab must not resemble the garments of the Kuffar

Abu Dawud and Ahmed have related the prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

"The one who take the similitude (manner) of a certain people, then he/she becomes one of them."

Abdullah bin Umar said: "The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) saw me wearing two garments dyed in saffron (orange), whereupon he said: these are the clothes (usually worn) by the Kuffar, so do not wear them."

8. The hijab should not be for fame

Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah have related the prophet to saying:

"The one who wears a garment designed for a worldly fame, Allah will make them wear a garment of humility on the Day Of Resurrection then he will be set ablaze."

The garment of fame is any garment a person wears to make themselves look famous. This applies whether the garment is highly precious and shows admiration to the life of this world or if it is chosen of a low quality to show lack of interest to this worldly life. The person may put on clothes with distinct colors so as to draw attention, act proudly and/or arrogantly.

9. Concealed ways of display

Examining the various conditions about the hijab one can clearly recognize that many of the young Muslim women are not fulfilling these conditions. Many just take "half-way" measures, which not only mocks the community in which she lives, but also mocks the commands of Allah. They consider what they put on now wrongly as "hijab" So, O Muslims, be mindful to Allah and His Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), and do not deceived by those who "bless" this action of yours and conceal their true intentions. Do not be deceived, and there is no excuse to follow the evil.